What is Love?

Usually we have a transfigured and romantic idea of love. No wonder. Love is transfigured and represented as the highest of emotions in the lyrics of the singer-songwriter and writer in films and novels. There is talk of luck, butterflies in the stomach, intimate affection and romance of plenty of. Connected feelings this beautiful page of romantic relationships and the we learn mostly only very briefly. The positive feelings associated with love are usually only in the phase of being in love and this lasts only a few months usually at most a year – in most cases. 

 Then a routine that choked most relationships takes the place of all the wonderful feelings. The two people are then like on railroad tracks side by side here, to experience the feelings ever again even in the most distant who have felt it in the infatuation phase. With the exception of the infatuation phase we feel the feeling of love for someone else usually only when this gives us what we want to. 

 Love is something selfish. We love a man not for its own sake, but always only because he meets certain needs and desires us. If the partners no longer meets our needs, after recognition, sex, tenderness, understanding, attention, etc., our love turns, for example, the request in frustration, hatred and indifference. In other words: Almost no one is capable of unconditional love, apart from some monks or Buddhists. 

We mortals expect something, put conditions on our affection to the other. These conditions are not met, the expectations are disappointed, no longer gives us the other, what we have hoped for from him, then the love goes out and we’re thinking about a separation. Every love affair lives by fulfilling the needs of the others. This is okay and if we are aware of the situation, then a partnership can work. Love lives of giving. But it also means: we must strive to the partner regularly and make sure that its needs not to be neglected. For the success of a partnership, it is crucial that we and our partners are in agreement in our expectations and ideas. 

 And of course, we must be ready to meet the most important needs of the other. Expectations and goals in life can change but in the course of the partnership. Then we need to look for a new concept, which brings both satisfaction or the separation is inevitable. What does that mean for a partnership? It means that a relationship will only work if both are willing to give, to push back and make compromises. A good relationship is never a one-way street. Who doesn’t love to yourself, which can give also no love. 

As with the peace of love is: only one can make peace, which is peaceful inside. Everyone experiences love differently, everyone understands differently love and everyone feels the sense of the Loved becoming on different occasions. Therefore, we need to find out from our partner, how we need to express our affection, so loved located feels. Let’s look, what we can do to make the flame of love does not expire. So keep the love of the partner in life Remember before going to sleep, what positive common experiences you have made on this day with your partner. 

Search in everyday life for the behaviors and properties that have made so attractive at the beginning of the partner for you. Remember what exactly you found so appealing. Look at pictures of yourself and your partner from the time, when you had more butterflies in the stomach. Put yourself in these situations, in which the pictures were taken, and you will feel a tingling sensation again. Wonder what exactly you can be grateful to your partner. Where did he support you particularly? What did you do together on problems? What objectives have you achieved together? Your partner, write a love or thank you note to you to thank for the time with him. 

If you have a type detection melody, a song where you met for the first time or danced with each other, have a listen to this song. Remember which compliments your partner already has made you and in what tone of voice and with what views he has pronounced the compliments. From my marriage counseling my husband compliments no me In what situation did you innermost feelings so far for your partner? So had they felt so much love? Let a little work the reminder and new to unfold the magic. How would it prove with occasional small honey? These invigorate the relationship, refresh the feelings of love and strengthen as the partnership. Love requires daily maintenance. So love can manifest as: Love is when it is so accepted the other as it is. Love is when it makes doing the other. Love is if you dispensed with the partner sake at on their own wishes. Love is when it holds together in good and in bad times.